Is it just me or does anyone else feel like the shower is the best place for thinking? Each morning when I am in standing in the beautifully hot water my mind becomes awakened. Thoughts and ideas are plentiful and I can’t wait to get to work to make notes and then write an amazing post that will draw in hundreds of readers and followers. In the shower I know it will epic and potent and raw and real. I KNOW IT!
Then I walk into work and the life force gets sucked out of me. I convince myself that my thoughts aren’t epic, my ideas aren’t potent and that the only raw and real part of my daily life is the feeling of – eh. I hate it. I despise it.
Someone asked me recently what is happening with the girl child. Well, nothing. She is working, which is good. She is doing phone therapy, which is bad. I know, after all the posts about needing therapy and I say it’s now bad. Let me explain. She was accepted into a DBT program – AWESOME! It includes individual and group therapies – AWESOME! She had two individual therapy sessions and was waiting for the group sessions to start; and then COVID-19 hit. Everything was cancelled, individual therapy became phone therapy. I ask how it’s going, she say’s fine. At one point she said she doesn’t know why she is bothering because the phone therapy is awful, she is getting nothing out of it, she needs the one on one. She is ready to give up on it completely. She knows if she does give up on it, there will be consequences.
Is she still seeing drippy dick? I don’t know. About a month ago she posted a picture of them with the caption “you and me against the world”. Wow, did that piss me off. Where has he been in the process of helping her get well? How is the person that beat you going to help you? Seriously, WTF? My girl is home more now than she had been in the last 5 months. Probably 3 times a week she leaves to stay over at a friends house. No, I’m not an idiot. Is she going to him? Probably, most likely, yes. Here is the part I hate to admit. When she is home, it is uncomfortable. She feels, we feel it. We are waiting for the next “thing” that sets her off and choose our words carefully – if we speak at all, and she is waiting for us to ask about drippy, which would cause the next episode. I don’t like being uncomfortable in my house. When she is in her room for hours on end, I feel guilty. Is she in her room because she wants to be or because she feels just as uncomfortable as we do? UGH. When she isn’t home, of course I worry, but it’s different some how. At the end of the day, it’s still emotionally draining and exhausting.
I did have my first therapy session. I found a psychologist that I felt comfortable with and felt I could be me. I found the doc through a friend/co-worker and was able to chat with the doc prior to my first appointment. It was nice because at the first official appointment we didn’t have to spend the entire hour on the background of my girl and what was happening. At the beginning of the appointment I was asked what I’m hoping to gain from therapy. Good question. I said I needed help dealing, I needed ideas to help me help her. We went through what we have done to help her so far, how we deal with her episodes, blah, blah, blah. At the end the doc looked at me and said, “You are doing all you can do. I don’t know what else I can tell you to do or try.” The doc had one suggestion to try to get my girl into a group home for mentally unstable people. Ummmm, no. I know what goes on in those places, especially homes that are run by the local county or state. Nope, not happening. No way in hell. So, I guess we wait. We wait for therapy to begin again, we wait for group therapy to begin and help her learn the life skills she needs. I’m tired of waiting.
I wanted to write about music
I wanted to write about sex
I wanted to write about dreaming
Maybe next time.